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Ohio

Hey, Pa,

My boyfriend is to gushy. What should I do?

Sandusky, Ohio

Good Lord, get him to man up. If you both over 18, start making him feel like a man, instead of a mushy, momma's boy.

Utah

Hey, Pa,

Well, there' s this boy his name is Jordan Jolley and I really like him alot what should I do about it. Please help me.

St. George, UT

There's two things to do: 1) Just muster up a little courage and go talk to him to see if he's worth your affections. 2) Make him come up and start talking to you. For help on the latter: Click here and learn how to get the guy.

Florida

Hey, Pa,

I’m not sure if sean is cheating on me or not: his ex wants him back and we are not happy no more, do he want her back or are we going to get married or not?

I'm not a psychic so, I don't know if you're dumb enough to marry this loser or not. If you're not happy now, it's is el stupido to marry him. Try reading "What's he really Thinking?" by clicking here.

Alabama

Hey, Pa,

Is it true that guys won't stick around if I don't want to do oral sex? I've never tried it, but my husband keeps pushing me to do it. I've thought about it but never had the nerve to actually do it. Any suggestions?

Birmingham, AL

I wouldn't necessarily say they wouldn't stick around, but it's a good indicator that they will stick around. Read up on the techniques here then give it a try. Never know, you might develop a taste for it, kind of like you had to with ice tea, remember?

Louisiana

Hey Pa,

Well he interacts with a lot of women because of the profession he's in, then comes home and throws it n my face as to make me jealous.....We haven’t been having sex at all because I’m self-conscious about the weight I have gained. We had an intimate encounter last night and we both enjoyed it. He asked to be intimate tonight and I was ready to start it off giving him oral for about 10 min before he says that’s alright. I’m kind of confused about our marriage. I’m really trying to please my husband as good as I can, but I just don’t know what to do.

Plaquemine, LA

Ten minutes? Most guys don't last that long, even if they wanted to. Don't give up, you're on the right track.

don't be self-conscious, just start going to bed naked for awhile. Also, spend a few bucks on a book about giving oral sex, just click here to check it out. Learning techniques that you didn't know will improve things. DON'T BEBASHFUL ABOUT LEARNING. It can only help. Then see if he can't keep his hands off of you. Keep in mind that once most guys who get the "treatment" are done for at least 10-15 minutes and then you may have to work a little to raise it from the dead. Lucky guy.

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Missouri

Hey Pa,

My husband is in the Army and has been stationed in South Korea for a little over three months now. We are used to spending time apart at this point, so we communicate as well as possible and things have seemed okay. We have been arguing more than normal, but that always happens when we are apart and stressed. Last week he had a field training exercise so there wasn't very much communication. We could send an occasion instant message since he still had his phone. He came back from his exercise and told me that he was done with our marriage. He said there were a lot of issues that we were having that weighed heavily on him and over the week he thought about them a lot to the point where he just can't take it anymore. He said he still loved me, but felt pushed away. I know I have my faults and haven't been as good to him as possible, but I was completely caught off guard. He had never mentioned this before. He wouldn't talk to me all weekend. He took almost $200 out of our checking account when he always uses his debit for everything. His explanation for this was that he bought groceries, but he is still going to eat at the dining hall for every meal and not eating in his room. After attempting to talk all weekend and him telling me he was tired and trying to get caught up on sleep before we discuss anything, I saw that a member of his leadership wrote him on his Facebook and asked how the movie was. I confronted him and he said he didn't tell me about the movie because he knew I would be angry, but he just went with some male coworkers. We've been talking about things and both crying our eyes out. I could tell that he was conflicted and didn't know that divorce was what he actually wanted. Every time I mentioned finding an attorney he made excuses as to why I couldn't. He said he just wants me to give him some space and time to hang out with his friends because I am a bit controlling. It's not because I didn't trust him before this, it's because I miss him greatly and our time to talk to each other is limited so I want it spent talking to me. He has mentioned a few times about playing softball with his friends. They have a league on base and go to other bases to play other teams. So he has taken that up and I told him I would be okay with it because I do understand he needs his time with friends and is lonely there. We are working towards correcting our problems, but I can't help but think in the back of my mind that someone else has stolen his affection. He had taken down our pictures in his room and when we video chat I can see that he still hasn't put them up. He told me he wanted to wait until he knew things were back to normal between us before he did it. It takes two seconds. I don't get it. I never took down his over the course of the weekend while we were fighting. This coming up weekend he said there is a softball tournament at a base four hours away and that they will be staying overnight in a hotel. I am trying hard to trust him yet I still have my suspicions. He said he will probably keep having softball practice everyday throughout the week. This morning on video chat he didn't have his wedding ring on and I asked him about it and he told me that it was muddy from playing ball yesterday so he took it off to clean it and hadn't put it back on yet. He never used to take it off even while welding at work when it's a safety issue. He always told me that he couldn't bear to take it off. I can't see his phone records because he has a Korean phone and if anything happened there I would never know. My question is, is it possible that he is just behaving differently still because we just had a huge blow out and we need time to readjust to our relationship and know things will be better, or does it sound more likely that there is someone else there he is interested in?

Springfield, MO

Don't worry about it. He's just lonely and probably doesn't like it any better than you do. He's trying to kill time playing softball. Go out and quit trying to contact him every minute of every day. Give it a break. Good luck and quit being such a control freak.

New Jersey

Hey Pa,

I've been talking to this guy for a very long time. He's not my type at all. We don't like the same types of music, tv shows, or movies. I hate Hollister and care more about high end fashion and vintage apparrel while he's more of a thug looking guy- Hollister's like his favorite clothing store. But we have a great time to ether, when I'm with him we just don't seem to notice our differences. We just can't stay together! We have sex a few times, stay together for a month then we break up again and again and in the meantime he's jumping back to his ex girlfriend. But I figure he wouldn't keep coming back if he didn't have feelings fro me. Right? Should I just leave him alone or should I just show him that there's more than just his average ex? Should I give him a try?

West Orange, New Jersey

No, you shouldn't give him a "try." Not only do you not have anything in common, you let him come back to you when he wants a piece. He keeps coming back to you because you're a good lay. (And probably goes back to his ex when he wants a change). This jerk jumps back and forth to get some strange. Plain and simple. Dump him and find somebody worthy of your affections. You don't need him or his winky for that matter. If you want some, give it to someone who appreciates you as well as your skills in the sack. To assist you, click here to study up on how to make any guy get interested in YOU and how to keep him interested.

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New York

Hey, Pa,

My boyfriend does not want to have sex with me. What should I do?

Newburgh, NY

(You don't give a lot of information, but let's do some assumptions: He doesn't have a medical problem and he's under 50.) Ok, get a little more aggressive. Surprise him with an occasional bj. Don't make it all about you. As long as nobody is getting hurt, try some different things. If all that fails, get him some Viagara.

Click here for more help.

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North Carolina

Hey Pa,

I have been separated for 5 years, and dating but in denial with myself and others. I am the type of man to blame others for my actions and then I am a very aloof and dupliciate person. Please help?

Marion, NC

Ditto, grow a pair. Either get a divorce or get back together (SOUNDS LIKE THE FORMER AFTER 5 YEARS). And you're right, you're a two-faced liar and a cheat. Knock it off and get your life back together or you'll be asking the same question 10 years from now. READ:

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Ohio

Hey Pa,

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN MY WOMAN DONT ASK ME FOR SEX I ALWAYS ASK HER SHE NEVER ASK ME AT ALL?

CINCINNATI, OHIO

Sounds like she is just accommodating you whenever you ask. You didn't say how often you ask? If you ask twice a day, well, she doesn't have time to ask. If you ask once a year and she doesn't do anything in the middle, you've probably got a problem. If you want to get her to ask, then you're probably going to have to start getting her to want it. We don't have enough room for that here, but she needs to start "really"" getting her rocks off, so click here and study up on it. Brain surgeons and rocket scientists study up on their trade, so make your trade keeping your woman happy and smiling.

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Hey Pa,

I WANT TO KNOW HOW DO I KNOW IF A MAN I HAVE BEEN WITH IS STEAD INTO ME EVEN THOUGH HE DOESNT TEXT OR CALL ME BUT HE STILL HAS BELONGINGS AT MY HOUSE? IS THAT A SIGN HE's STILL INTO ME BUT NEEDS TIME TO SORT THINGS OUT? I REALLY LOVE HIM.

Dayton,Ohio

You didn't say where he's hangin' when he's not with you. Probably with some other babe. By the way, at this point he's using you for self storage, cheaper than renting a storage unit. Time to sort things out is a bunch of BS. He just doesn't want to be with you, so "I'm sorting things out." Guys don't "sort things out". Men are ADD, women multi-task. That excuse works on because you fell for it. If you have the nerve, call him and tell him you're cramped for space and you need him to clean out his stuff or you're going to have to toss it. You will definitely know where you stand at that point. If he doesn't clean it out or at least talk to you, toss it out in the trash along with him. Have you got the nerve? If you really insist you love him, you'll need ammunition , so click here and listen to the whole video. Good luck either way.

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Wisconsin

Hey, Pa,

What is the proper way to handle an ex wife of your boyfriend? I don't like her at all...she used to call constantly, used their child as an excuse till I threw fits...I can't stand to even hear her name spoken from his mouth...I know I am in the wrong but I don't know how to fix it....he would talk to her and be her friend if I would let him and I feel this isn't right for me to do...but I just can't fix it...she is 31 and he is 52..I just turned 50.

Racine, WI

Trust him to do what's right. If you don't trust him, find another. When someone has kids, he or she is never really divorced as they would be if they don't. (If they don't, they never see them again. If they do, there's visitation, graduations, holidays and on and on.) As far as I'm concerned, there's no such thing as just being "friends". I suppose you could, but it's hard to stay just friends when you've been in the sack with somebody. It's too easy to fall back in the sack for another round. Take a look see at this guide and see if it doesn't help. Click here to see the guide.

United States

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Hey Pa,

I'm stuck in a relationship that I want to get out.

New York, New York.

Well, get out. That way you won't have to lie anymore. It's awfully hard to remember what you didn't say or didn't do. That's if, you've got the balls.

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Hey, Pa,

At times I feel I am cheating on my husband. I'm not doing anything wrong. but even today, after 4 years of marriage, sometimes I feel I cannot forget my first love, otherwise I am giving my 100% to this relationship, but I don't know why sometimes this feeling comes to my mind and I block myself to my immature thinking. Please suggest.

Hey, that's cool. It's called fantasizing. Whatever you think about doing to your first love, do to your hubby and believe me, he won't care who you are thinking of! If you're a screamer, might be wise not to use your first love's name in the heat of passion. Click here for more ideas on keeping it spicy.

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Hey Pa,

I am really having a hard time leaving my girlfriend. We have been together for about 7 years. She's constantly talking about getting married. For some reason my mind is tell me to found someone else. Because last year she cheated on me twice with two different man. I caught her both time in the house. First time,in FEB. right after Valentine's Day and I even got her what she wanted, a diamond heart necklace. We made up and got engaged in April. Second time, in May, her birthday, I took her downtown to an expensive restaurant and horse carriage ride. Next day, I went to work and I usually don't come home but I decided to come home and a car was in the driveway: long story short, she was cheating.

Okay, let's get this straight: she got poked on Valentine's Day, then you asked her to get married in April. Then, she does it again the very next month. Mm, do we see a pattern here? If you're gonna keep her, you ought to re-size the rock a couple sizes smaller. At least she'd have a tough time getting it off. Or, you ought to do what I would: go report her on the cheat reports, get the rock back and get on with your life. She's a loser. READ:

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Hey Pa,

If someone you love is in a relationship with a person that secretly texts, emails, & talks on the phone with many of their former lovers, should you tell the person you love? Or do you confront that person and tell them that they are dishonest and will hurt the person you love and that they should be open and honest and explain why they do this to the person you love. It seems cruel, hurtful and unfair... do you agree?

I am assuming the person you love is a friend (Let's call her Rachel to keep it straight). (Let's

call her friend, Bob.) First, you're being kind of nosy to even find out what Bob is doing. If you don't want to go to war with Rachel, you could say something to her. Keep in mind, Rachel may not give two hoots and a holler about what Bob is doing. Bob sounds like the kind of person who is hanging on to the past either out of insecurity or maybe he doesn't want Rachel to be the one and only. Yeah, it seems unfair if Rachel doesn't know, but if you confront Bob , guess what, you're going to torque off Rachel big time. She will then tell you to mind your own business. Bob will also tell you to mind your own business. And unless they are both babes, you may get your ass kicked in the meantime. So, now you've lost both. Even if you think it seems cruel, hurtful and unfair, mind your own business. Now if your business is you have the hots for Rachel or Bob for that matter, then all's fair in love and war, certainly tell her she is being emotionally cheated on. Then, of course, you can be there to pick up the pieces and help her cope. And probably get laid in the process. You probably will eventually lose both in this scenario, so is a piece of tail worth more than a friend? If the friend is a relative, then probably. Click here for more info.

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Hey, Pa,

I 've been talking to a guy and he has a girlfriend and he's cheated several times on her, do u think it will ever stop? And he claims that she's his soul mate?

Never is an awful long time. If he believes she is his soul mate, what would you ever be, swiss cheese? BUT, soul mate? Ok, enter at your own risk. If you want to avoid heartache, don't walk, RUN from this guy. You'll have problems with this character even as a friend. Click here for more.

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Hey, Pa,

I believe my boyfriend is doing my friend. He was introduced to her several weeks ago and since then it seems as though he has been seeing someone. He started coming home late, I found him at her place more than three times alone and on two occasions he came home after 5:30 am . On other occasions he has come home after 11 pm. This week he was at her place more than 5 times. I've noticed strange behavior with both of them. I feel so embarrassed because my friend confronted me and said she would never do this, but she contradicted herself when she stated in another conversation that recently she was confronted with a sexual advance but she had to say no, not because the man had a girlfriend we both know, but because he had a small penis. She knows my boyfriend has a nice size and at one time she told me about her two prior relations that were based upon this, just for sex. I know that she can get freaky and so can my boyfriend. She and I talked just recently and I believe she was trying to see where I was coming from to see if she could stop me from being suspicious. I was somewhat convinced that she was telling me the truth but after I thought about things that were said, my suspicions grew. Once again my boyfriend was late getting home last nite. He didn't say he was at her place but he did say he was in touch with her, he stated that she needed his assistance in a tow for her vehicle. He stated the details but in the end after my inquiries I realized that he was lying. The things that he told her couldn't possibly be mentioned over the phone in such an emergency state. When I reflected upon what was stated it sounded more like a comparison of notes. He had told her what my suspicions were and she had told him various things as well. It seems like they want me off their tails so they can continue without the risk of getting caught. My boyfriend has tried to convince me that I have mental health issue and its ruining our relationship so I cant talk to him anymore about my suspicions, he wants me to get psychiatric help. I am confused. This doesn't happen all the time, only when his pattern changes. I am very aware of his behavior right now so it isn't that easy to fool me.even though I'm playing like maybe I do need the help. I really think that he's playing me. Anyway because of all of this my relationship is disturbed. I believe I am suspicious because of the incidents that I've mentioned and because of his behavior that suddenly changed. But I am also questioning myself and am at the point where I don't know if he is doing her and trying not to get caught or if he is right that I have a mental issue that I should get help with before it ends what we have. He tells me my thoughts are exaggerated and far fetched. And that he has always been true. I am convinced that something is going on and he doesn't want to get caught and neither does she. It has escalated to the point where I don't feel comfortable at my friends place and our friendship has been on the rocks as well. I think she didn't want me finding her out because she accused me of stealing some things and other things happened that somehow ended our friendship. How do I determine what is real and what isn't, i told him I'd get the help I need and I wont be suspicious any more but my heart is telling me different. I want to catch him and let him know that he can't play me like this, and I'd like him to know that this game was unfair and vicious and severe. What should I do? I'm hurting and confused and questioning myself and losing my self esteem. This whole incident is disturbing me very, very much and I feel desperate.

My,my. Quite a story. Where to start? It should be interesting to listen to you explain how your friend knows the size of your boyfriend's winky. I suppose you could have told her, but, she wouldn't know for sure unless she saw it. You sounded awfully sure. If he's whipping it out and displaying it, maybe your friend saw something she liked and made arrangements to get it. Lying goes with cheating. Do you think they're going to fess up??

You've said your friend isn't your friend any more and he apparently isn't your boyfriend any more, so you'll solve three people's problems by moving out or assisting him in doing so. I don't think you need mental help; it appears to me all you need is a Uhaul and a couple of Mexicans from Home Depot to load your ass up and get you out of a bad situation. If you insist on "making sure", we have a couple of cheat kits by clicking here. Spend a few bucks and you can find out for sure. If he isn't poking her, which isn't very likely, then tell him to quit acting like he is. It makes him look like an idiot and maybe she's got a boyfriend that will blow his ass away. READ:

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Hey, Pa,

I got a friend and she is married & she got her baby's daddy coming to spend a night with her in the same bed sleeping together. Is that cheating? She is still married to her husband. Tell me what to do. It is not right at all. My feelings are about to go off on the both of them. Then she told me that she going to Chicago to be with him.

Yes, she is cheating. On her husband with YOU. Time you moved on and this time don't be fooling around with someone who's married. Very dangerous situation. Some husbands would put a cap in your ass. Click here to see if this will help. Read:

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Hey, Pa,

Well my boyfriend is very loving towards me and shows me that he cares, can always put that smile on my face, but the problem that I have is that he likes to look at other girls and I hate that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. What do I do?

Keep in mind that he is with you. Some guys make a point to let a babe he is with know or see he is looking at another girl. Immature, but been going on since the caveman. He makes himself the center of attention. I stopped doing it when a babe I was with one time started making comments when she knew I was going out of my way to look. One in particular was when I looked a little long at a babe on the beach. She simply said, "Nice boobs." Brought the old relationship to a new level. Try it, but don't over do, it will become obvious. Give your opinion, good or bad, but don't set the bar too high or he will think you're just knocking them because you are jealous. Keep the relationship hot click Smokin' Hot Sex for a read on keeping him from looking around

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Foreign

Hey Pa,

I had a girl who just broke up with me to start a relationship with one of my friends because i don't have enough money for her needs. I'm really confused, although I think she still feels for me.

DELTA STATE, NIGERIA

And we thought that was only an American problem. You got two choices: make more money for her needs or find a woman who loves you, not your wallet. They're around. Let your friend have her and you'll be better off in the long run. Happy hunting. Click here to read up on finding the help you need.

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